How to Stay Motivated Without Relying on Willpower
Sometimes, we all feel lost. Our motivation vanishes, and with it, our energy to act, to move forward, and to get things done. When motivation disappears, we lose our rhythm and the speed we once had. Everything slows down. Sometimes, we even lose confidence in ourselves, or drift apart from people close to us. It can feel like everything is falling apart.
Losing motivation can last a day, a week, or even a month. But it’s important not to let yourself fall into a deep hole where you stay unmotivated for too long. The longer you stay down, the harder it gets to climb back out.
So, how do you avoid this trap? The answer is to give yourself small, meaningful challenges—especially in the middle of a task or project. At the start, you’re excited and full of energy. As Cal Newport explains in his book Deep Work, the beginning of a project is always thrilling. But after a week or two, that excitement fades, and motivation drops. That’s the moment you need to find new challenges. Challenge yourself. Find something inside the project that sparks your interest again.
Look around you. Notice the beauty in simple things—like greenery, for example. I’m writing this from Bangkok, surrounded by lush plants, and it reminds me how important it is to feel good, to feel happy, and to feel comfortable in your own shoes. Motivation is key for me, especially when I’m working on projects or building apps. When you do things that matter to you, things that make sense for your life, you feel aligned with your values and your direction.
It doesn’t have to be a big project. Maybe you’re building a house, or starting a new life in another country. Sometimes, you’ll question yourself. That’s normal. But you also need to know what you want, and make sure your actions match your values and your environment.
Sometimes, it’s the people around us—our partners, family, or friends—who pull us down. They might question your choices or tell you not to do something. That’s dangerous if you know deep down what you want. If these people have never done what you’re trying to do, their advice might not be helpful. Most of the time, they don’t know what they’re talking about. It’s better to spend time with people who have already done what you want to do, or with people who are positive and supportive.
In the end, life is short. It’s often the things we didn’t do that we regret most when we look back. You have to act. You have to make mistakes and learn from them. If you do nothing, don’t expect your life to change. You’ll just keep getting what you’ve always had—or maybe even less.
Take action. Make mistakes. Question yourself. Get back on your feet. That’s how you build a golden life. I truly wish you all the best from the bottom of my heart. Go for it. I believe in you—so believe in yourself.
It’s not the things we do that we regret most, but the things we didn’t do.
— Anonymous
If you do nothing, don’t expect your life to change.
— Pierre
Key Takeaways
- Motivation comes and goes; don’t let a slump last too long.
- Give yourself small, meaningful challenges to stay engaged.
- Align your actions with your values and what truly matters to you.
- Be careful whose advice you listen to—stick with people who support or understand your journey.
- Take action, make mistakes, and keep moving forward.
Ask Yourself:
What’s one small challenge you can set for yourself today to reignite your motivation? Are you surrounded by people who lift you up or hold you back? What’s one thing you’ve always wanted to do but keep putting off?
Pierre-Henry Soria
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