How to Shape a Life You Love Without Living on Autopilot
Living simply, calmly, and in a way that matches your own goals is not just about routines or ticking boxes. It’s about creating days that feel easy and joyful, thanks to the way you organize your life. Sometimes, we live on autopilot or get stuck in habits that don’t really serve us. Maybe it’s because we’re surrounded by people whose ambitions or habits are the opposite of ours, or maybe it’s just the mood of the place we live in. Over time, we become the average of the three, four, or five people we spend the most time with. Our environment shapes us—sometimes more than we realize.
Your environment isn’t just your apartment or your city. It’s the way people think around you, the way things are done in your country, the laws, the general mood—whether people are kind or not when you go shopping, walk down the street, or take public transport. All of this rubs off on you, even if you don’t notice it. The energy of others can influence your character, your ambitions, and what you want to build in your life.
It’s important to pay attention to this, because over the long term, your environment can affect your motivation and the things you create. Sure, you can work on your motivation and make tasks easier to avoid procrastination, but your atmosphere still matters. It can slow down your progress. Even people who succeed in tough environments might have done it faster or better somewhere else. Just because someone made it in a difficult place doesn’t mean that’s the best way. Think of a tree growing in poor soil—it might survive, but it would have grown taller and stronger in fertile ground.
So, be careful about what surrounds you. Watch your habits, too. Addictions and little pleasures might feel good in the moment, but over time, they can trap you. It’s like a Christmas tree wrapped in netting—it can’t grow. You want to be the same tree, but free, out in the wild. Sure, it’s riskier, but it’s also where you can really thrive.
Some people say, “I’m happy where I am.” But have you tried anything else? It’s like people who say their country is the best without ever really living somewhere else. Traveling is nice, but it’s not the same as living and working in a new place, surrounded by locals. I’ve lived and worked in more than six countries—not just freelancing from there, but actually working with people from those places. That’s how you really get to know a culture.
For example, I once worked in Paris, but the company was so international that it didn’t feel truly French. The same goes for the UK—I’ve worked in Manchester, London, and Scotland, and each place is different. Even within Switzerland, working for a French-speaking company is not the same as working for a German-speaking one, or one near the Italian border. These differences matter.
The point is, you need to find the environment where you can grow best. Nothing is set in stone. You don’t have to do something forever just because you try it now. Moving to Switzerland doesn’t mean you’ll die there. Life is full of changes. I’ve met people from all over—New Caledonia, French Guiana, Iceland, Canada—and each experience has taught me something new.
I love multicultural places like London or Sydney. They show you how different life can be. So, I encourage you to try new things, cross borders, and always look for ways to improve your life. Build a life you love, a life that really speaks to you. Life is too short not to live it fully.
If the path is beautiful, don’t ask where it leads. Just enjoy the journey.
— Anonymous
Sometimes, we make choices without thinking, just because that’s what everyone else does. But it’s good to pause and ask yourself: Is this really for me? Is this the life I want?
Life can change in an instant. Not long ago, I had a bad fall and broke my knee. I had to have surgery and couldn’t walk for weeks. I never saw it coming. One moment, everything was fine; the next, I was in the hospital. It made me realize how quickly things can change, and how important it is to enjoy life now—not later.
Every day, I try to check in with myself. Every two hours, I pause and ask: Am I proud of how I spent this time? What did I do well? What could I do better? At the end of the day, I rate my day and write down what I want to repeat or avoid. The next morning, I look at my notes and try to do better. Over time, this helps me move closer to my ideal day. Our tastes and goals change, so it’s good to keep checking in.
You become the average of the people you spend the most time with. Choose wisely.
— Jim Rohn
The goal of life is to be happy. Not to collect degrees or impress people you don’t even like. Sometimes, we try to impress others or just go with the flow, without really thinking. But it’s worth taking a step back and asking: Is this really what I want?
You never know what tomorrow will bring. So act now, and enjoy life as much as you can. I believe in you—so believe in yourself, too.
Life is like a train that never stops. Make sure you’re on the right track, and enjoy the ride.
— Anonymous
Key Takeaways
- Your environment and the people around you shape your life more than you think.
- Don’t be afraid to try new places, jobs, or routines—you’re not stuck forever.
- Check in with yourself regularly: Are you living the life you want?
- Life can change in a second. Don’t wait to start living fully.
- Happiness is the real goal—not just following the crowd.
Reflection
- Am I really happy with my daily life, or am I just going through the motions?
- Who are the people and habits shaping my days?
- What small change can I make today to move closer to the life I want?
Pierre-Henry Soria
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