How to Change Your Routine Without Feeling Overwhelmed
Changing your routine is tough. I know it from experience, and I’m pretty sure you do too. It took me a long time to completely change my own habits. Sometimes, our routines are so deeply rooted that they feel more like rituals or quirks. Maybe you have a bedtime ritual: a cup of tea, some warm milk (I used to do that a lot in winter), or a hot chocolate. You might watch TV or a movie before bed, go to sleep late, and then wake up late, feeling off because it’s already 9 or 10 in the morning.
This is especially true if you’re a freelancer, retired, or a student. You wake up at 10 or 11 and think, “Wow, where did the morning go?” Or maybe you work night shifts and your schedule is all over the place. We all have routines we think we enjoy—those cozy moments at night, staying up late, watching a couple of movies. But over time, you realize you’re not getting much done. Maybe your friends are the same, but when you compare yourself to others, you wonder how they manage to achieve so much.
Here’s a challenge: what if you decided, for just one year, to break your routine and accomplish much more? It sounds simple, but it’s much harder than it seems. Discipline is key. You can’t allow yourself even a single exception, because one exception leads to another, and soon you’re back where you started. That’s the real danger.
There’s a phrase I love:
Discipline equals freedom
— Jocko Willink
If you’re disciplined with your days and set clear, meaningful rules for yourself, freedom will follow. But it does require sacrifice. You’ll have to do things that aren’t always pleasant. Sometimes, you’ll need to say no or give up habits you used to share with your partner, kids, or parents. You can’t do everything, because some things will get in the way of what you truly want to achieve. If you know you’ll be proud of yourself for accomplishing something, you’ll have to make sacrifices elsewhere.
We all have 24 hours in a day, but we each manage them differently. Investing in your time is what makes the real difference. Changing your routine means questioning yourself and rethinking the habits you’ve built. Most of us just go through the day without thinking much about it, then complain we never have time for what we want to do. The truth is, we rarely sit down, reflect, and plan our days.
Try this: at the end of the day, rewind your day in your mind, step by step. Write down everything you did, from the moment you woke up. You don’t have to keep this list forever—it’s just to help you spot your good and bad habits. Sometimes, you’ll find habits that aren’t bad, but they don’t match your current goals. You might need to pause them for now to focus on what matters most. Later, you can always pick them up again.
Often, we do too much and end up drained, unable to create or study at our best. Our energy is gone, and that’s a real handicap. So, be vigilant. Identify what’s working and what’s not. Analyze, then put in place the habits that will help you reach your goals. It’s easy to make a list of resolutions, but sticking to them is the hard part. If you allow yourself exceptions, your new routine won’t last more than a few days.
That’s why it’s so important to keep your routine going, to stick to it exactly. Remember:
Discipline equals freedom
You have to accept that you’re the one setting these rules for yourself, to finally achieve what you’ve wanted for so long. It’s worth it. You’ll be proud, even if it means sacrificing other habits—maybe even creative ones—if they’re taking up too much time or energy.
For example, maybe you used to go to the gym five times a week. That’s a good habit, but if you want to focus on something else, you might need to cut back to three times a week, or shorten your sessions. Maybe you’ll pay a bit more for a gym closer to home to save time. Yes, it costs more, but if it saves you an hour a day, that’s an hour you can use for your big project.
Think of your life like a puzzle. Sometimes, you have to remove or rearrange pieces to make room for what matters most. Maybe you’ll see your friends or partner less for a month or two. But if it means finishing that book or course you’ve dreamed of, it’s worth it. After a few months, you’ll be proud of what you’ve done. For years, you might have said you never had the time, but really, you just didn’t want to change your routine.
One day, you have to say, “Now’s the time.” Change your habits so you can finally do what you’ve always wanted.
Another thing that helps is lowering the barrier to starting a task. The hardest part is often just getting started. If you want to clean your apartment, don’t think about cleaning the whole place. Just decide to clean the kitchen counter. Once you start, you’ll probably do a bit more. The same goes for exercise—commit to just one push-up or ten minutes at the gym. It’s much easier to get going, and you’ll often end up doing more.
Small habits, repeated daily, lead to big results over time
— James Clear
This approach makes it easier to stick to your new routine and avoid falling back into old patterns. The key is to keep things simple and manageable, so you don’t get overwhelmed and give up.
Key Takeaways
- Changing your routine is hard, but discipline is the key to real freedom.
- Identify and question your daily habits—some may not fit your current goals.
- Make sacrifices and accept that you can’t do everything at once.
- Lower the barrier to starting tasks by breaking them into small, easy steps.
- Stick to your new routine without exceptions, or you’ll quickly fall back into old habits.
Reflection
- What habits are holding you back from what you really want to achieve?
- Are you willing to make sacrifices, even if it means giving up something good for something better?
- How can you make your new routine so simple that you can’t say no to it?
Pierre-Henry Soria
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